just when i least expected to, i came in contact with a kindred spirit today and the basis for our connection was our shared ancestry.
while doing interviews for a networking project, i met a frenchman who immediately inquired about my surname and was obviously curious about my heritage, saying that he rarely meets french people in new york. (that's a common complaint of mine as well.) his female colleague piped up about the stereotype of french people being obsessed with food and commented that when he was a teenager, his method of rebellion was to eat only fast food for a time. that really angered his father, who like most french fathers takes food seriously.
i laughed but also immediately understood and said, had i done such a thing, it probably would not have gone over very well in my household either. i mentioned how when i spent a summer in france, i used to write my father long letters about all the fabulous gastronomic discoveries i was making (brebis, piperade, jurancon, etc...) and how he would reply only to say "tell me more about the food!" i still have those letters and, honest to god, they put their focus squarely on the food.
so it's a stereotype, i said, but it's true! and as it turns out, this particular frenchman is quite the gastronome. he had all the dirt on who alain ducasse goes to for his ingredients and how they're now producing foie gras in new york (i didn't know that!). we shared some knowing smiles over the glories of d'artagnan and the woman kind of watched our back-and-forth with a "my god, french people really are obsessed with food!" expression on her face.
oh honey, you have no idea.
i tried to rein myself in a bit because i really could have started frothing at the mouth about my most recent passions (armagnac, sancerre, floc de gascogne, the list goes on) but didn't want to leave this poor lady out in the cold. it's the only occasion i can think of in which i had a very obvious, clear, overt ethnic connection with someone else. oddly enough, even though western massachusetts is franco central nobody talks about it. that culture is dying out if not dead. and francos in the united states, unlike their quebecois cousins, have all but assimilated into the larger mass culture. what a regret.
there have been many times when i've witnessed americans of other ethnic backgrounds making the connection over some shared experience that brings fond smiles to their faces, but to this point i've pretty much had to seek out that link on my own. for that reason it was a real pleasure to, simply by chance, fall into this delightful conversation with another french food fanatic.
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